Comments on: How soon will you realise that there's nothing you need that you don't already have?

By: admin

admin — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 11:37:58 +0000

Thank you!

By: Di

Di — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 01:21:29 +0000

Good song! Agreed, it is about having the awareness or being conscious of where and how our EGO supports us and where and how our EGO impedes us. I have written about this in terms of reactions (EGO driven) and responses (planned and purposeful) in relation to when stuff happens to us. That is, when our buttons are pushed or perhaps we are outside of our comfort zone do we react or do we respond?

I haven’t published this piece yet, so stay tuned…

By: Brian

Brian — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 00:45:54 +0000

EGO is not a dirty word – so sang the late Shirley Strachan with Skyhooks when they were Living in the Seventies and it still holds true today.

If EGO drives you to make choices to gain the approval/envy/adulation of others then that is simply a symptom that you suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Narcissists need a constant supply of approval/envy/adulation from others to feed their narcissism and they will work tirelessly to get that. They are to the world at large highly successful people but to those closest to them they are toxic. The professional and business world is littered with them.

They suffer from a malignant EGO growing out of control.

A healthy EGO promotes appropriate self love, a pre-condition for being able to love someone else.

So don’t disparage EGO, just keep its growth benign.

By: Di

Di — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 02:35:30 +0000

It is truly interesting isn’t it when you have the realisation that EGO drives choice and more interesting when you start to choose just how you allow EGO to drive choice? I am loving the journey and love your comments and support.

I too think my MOJO is on the return… stay tuned and thank you.

By: Stef

Stef — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 11:36:29 +0000

Di – some very brave realisations particularly in a public realm – congratulations. In my experience and considering cycles and associated personal growth, I believe we work through the various levels on several occasions during our lifetime. Just when we think we have it all together, bang, we get hit by the bus and find ourselves (sometimes inadvertenty) starting again. For example levels 4 & 5 have completely different meaning to me now than they did many years ago, when I was living what was a relevant level 4 & 5 back then. The difference between then and now I believe, is EGO. I’m no master of EGO management by any means but I can look back with a comparison now and realise just how blessed I really am today. It’s not an easy journey because EGO tends to be a pretty stiff opponent along the way…

Brian – I wholeheartedly have to say that I agree with you. For years I supported a union which was endlessly about surpassing the first-class, 6 star overseas trips… the next model BM convertible… the brand label infants clothing… and the CK underwear… It didn’t stop there. It was an ‘exciting time’ and in its own way, a level 4 & 5 that was real at the time.

Then one glorious winter’s day I sat alone in my multi-story waterfront mansion, surrounded by nothing less than all the ‘finer things in life’ and questioned whether this was really the path to ’self actualisation’. I felt there was no real purpose to my (then) existence.

Three and a half years ago, I made the decision to explore the meaning of it all. And with $78 in my personal bank account, I took two young children, two ‘homeless bags’, two bikes and bottle of gin, struck a deal with the local caravan park owner (and school principal) and started life all over again. It was the most humiliating (EGO), humbling and liberating journey of my life – all in one (but not all at the same time!).

To this day, I remain stunned by the realisation of what it is that blesses me. On display is not much in terms of material wealth but within, I have all that I need – friends, family, health, self confidence and an opportunity to support others through their various Maslow stages. I have a renewed purpose which provides me the strength and courage to assist clients in their pursuits and which in turn supports me like no Cartier, Armani or multi-storey mansion ever did!

For me right now, it just doesn’t get much better…!

Keep working on it Di – your mojo is out there and you won’t know yourself when you find it!