You get as good as you give!
“You get as good as you give” has been yet another observation I have made during the building project that has a HUGE parallel in life. For all intents and purposes the renovation (the actual building process) has been absolutely fantastic and 100% successful. When discussing this with others I get many comments such as ‘oh, you have been so lucky’ and ‘wow lucky you’. I have to say, luck had nothing to do with it at all.
I have come to realize that your external reality is very much a reflection of your internal world and vice versa. That is, whatever is going on around you is in some way reflecting how you are feeling and what is going on for you on the inside. This is also relevant to the people around you whether they are folk you love and adore or folk that irritate you – they all mirror YOU! We actually create the barriers we experience in life, we create the abundance, we create the world we live in. There is a great saying by Laurel Lee that says “I know I do not see the world as it is, I see the world as I am.”
So what does all this mean? Well, basically if life is sweet for you it is because you have inner peace; you are living consciously. Conversely if life is conflicted, stressful or difficult then look inwards for the reasons why? Ask yourself, could I behave better in certain situations, could I respond in a kinder way to those I am interacting with, could the situation I am finding conflicted, stressful or difficult be about me – am I simply deflecting responsibility by pointing the finger and laying blame on others? In fact how often do you hear yourself blaming the other party? One of the biggest learning opportunities is to listen to your language. If abundant in your language is to blame others then take time to reflect on what role might you be playing in the given situation? If you would like your world to be different simply take a different approach, learn a new perspective. I guarantee if you take a different approach you will get a different response. After all, the only person you can control in life is you, so if you want something different or better, then change your perspective, take a different approach to any given situation, because you really do ‘get as good as you give.’
I get it… I live consciously and the building experience (and life in general) is testament to this!
January 28th, 2008 at 11:31 am
Di,
Ah, yes touching on one of those inherently difficult issues which are around behaviour change. I think the last election saw the Australian public take a stand on the “blame game” issue. Individuals are required to “balance” things more than ever before – both in and out of the workplace. Not that this is an excuse, it just requires individuals to have a higher sense of awareness and organistion. Sometimes though, it is important for people to spend time to “reflect” on what they have done/said and ask the questions that you have outlined…..sometimes people have difficulty answering the questions that they ask….the mirror can be incredibly brutal sometimes…….
January 28th, 2008 at 4:02 pm
Nice insight. I believe the mirror is only brutal if you insist on seeing prince charming or snow white, all perfect and right. When you can look in your mirror and see the warts (some imperfection) also, that is the path to growth. The pain felt along the way simply validates the learning and growth. Learning is being able to challenge yourself and recognise the role we play in each and every interaction, even when it is not a great interaction. It is being able to find a new and different path other than to blame everyone else and recognise that with a little change a different or better perspective can be gained, then the mirror becomes your friend. You might find the story of Snow White … interesting. Check it out here …
http://www.lifelonglearning.com.au/learning/personal-discovery Cheers Di